Answer: Alice, not only is it acceptable it can be very stimulating and rewarding for you and your husband. By the way, congratulations on 20 years but let’s start off the next 20 by increasing that sexual activity between the two of you. If you are waiting for him to make the first move, don’t, but instead make it yourself. Start by adding more of that heavy petting that the two of you likely enjoyed in your early years and I bet you can quickly stimulate that old man. When having sex start to add variety. You might purchase a small vibrator that can be used to stimulate your vulva area and his penis and testicle area. Whatever you do, have fun.

Very often we are left sexually unsatisfied with our partners because they are unable to fulfill our needs. It is embarrassing and displeasing to fake an orgasm, because a guy cannot find the right “buttons” to push. Therefore, it is up to us to find out how to please ourselves and translate that to our mates.

The first step in discovering your body is becoming comfortable. All women have insecurities, but you must learn to love your body. Despite having difficulties with our own confidence, we all look for poise in our partners. Be proud of your vagina. Get comfortable with spreading your legs and bend over. Have fun in front of a mirror and make a sexy pose. Still not into it? Moan loud and become accustomed to your sexual prowess.

In most people’s eyes, masturbation is the best way to discover your body. Although some people feel that pleasuring yourself is totally immoral, it completely natural to find out whom you are. Besides, it’s a great way to relieve stress. Start small and use your fingers to play with your clitoris. Don’t be afraid to get yourself a little wet before feeling the inside of your vagina. By pre-heating the oven you will be able to enjoy the cooking a lot more.

One may believe that discovering yourself is all about the naughty place, but it’s not. Don’t ignore other vital parts of the body. Play with your nipples, rub your inner thighs and some girls even like to play with their anus; don’t knock it until you try it. After all, this is about discovering your body.

If you feel a little awkward, turn on some relaxing music and light a few scented candles. It is important to relax. With sex and masturbation, you need to be in the right mood. Try and experiment with new things. Experimenting during masturbation is the first step to implement new tricks in the bedroom.

As soon as you come to understand your body, share any discoveries you have made with your mate. During sex let him know what tickles your fancy. A great way to show him what gets you hot is to masturbate while he is watches. This will be a special treat for the guy and can certainly teach him the right spots to touch. Sex shouldn’t become routine, as it is important to work together by communicating physically and verbally.

Regardless of how experienced you are, it is exceptionally imperative to get to know yourself. How can you expect your partner to fulfill your needs if you have no idea what they are? Even though we have landed on the moon, there is still a lot that remains to be discovered. Continue “probing” and you will carry on learning about yourself.