No Means No: Date Rape is Not Consensual Play

Rape generally means forcing someone to have sexual intercourse. Naturally this is considered a crime. What many do not know however is that there is a need for many of us to change our concept of rape. Some people still maintain the stereotypical idea of rape in their minds, and immediately imagine a scary-looking guy pouncing at a woman walking all by herself in a dark deserted alley. Although this is of course still considered a description of a rape scene, there are other scenarios where rape can occur. Read more

Tough Love vs. Spanking – Good Argument

Most of the American populace thinks it improper to spank children, so I have tried other methods to control my kids when they have one of  ‘those moments.’ One that I found effective is for me to just take the child for a car ride and talk.

Some say it’s the vibration from the car, others say it’s the time away from any distractions such as TV, Video Games, Computer, IPod, etc.

Either way, my kids usually calm down and stop misbehaving after our car ride together.  Eye to eye contact helps a lot too.

I’ve included a photo below of one of my sessions with my son, in case you would like to use the technique.

This works with grandchildren, nieces, and nephews as well.

Sincerely,

A Friend of Ask Uncle Terry

Parent Child Sex Talk, Pregnancy or Sexual Disease the Choice is Yours!

In the already infamous “condom episode” of “South Park,” the town decides that sex education is desperately needed in the schools after a number of the kids are caught innocently “milking” male dogs. As with most “South Park” episodes, much raunchy humor follows. And also as with most “South Park” episodes, there’s a final “moral” that ends up being both serious and legitimate-in this case the point that sex education needs to be taught not in the schools (or at least not primarily in the schools) but at home. Which is, of course, easier said than done. Read more

Peer Pressure and Sex

There is sex on every television channel, moans on every radio station, search engines on the Internet, and models wearing close to nothing in advertisements throughout the country. A lot of pressure is on today’s youth to have sex at younger and younger ages. The morality of what is right and wrong is falling quickly. There is a lack of respect for others and most importantly, oneself. Read more

Payback Time: Surviving Adolescents

As children our parents may have said, “you’ll get yours!” Or used such terms as “payback time.” That cuddly little baby came along and you made it through the “terrible two’s” and early parts of childhood. You went through the potty training. You survived the tantrums while shopping when the little ones wanted everything they saw and would start screaming when they didn’t get it. You tried shouting at your child and found that this works as well as driving your car with its horn. Soon things are going much smoother and you are finding it easier to love your child. You are now thinking that “payback time” was not so bad. Read more

Teaching Work Ethics a Parents Responsibility

I have never liked to shop while my wife made an avocation out of it. Her regular shopping excursions were stressful enough and by the time the holiday season came around I would usually be a basket case. Why is it that a woman has to look at everything in the store from flatware to underwear or try on 50 pairs of shoes? I like a man’s way of shopping where we go in a store make our purchase and leave. Read more