Nick, a lot of guys think that you are either a brave soul, a bit crazy or perhaps gay! For any of you guys that think that way, the truth is there is nothing wrong with a bit of gender play between consenting adults. If Nick or any other guy wants his girlfriend to screw him in the ass this does not make him crazy or gay. Sure I realize that some of you would rather die of cancer than even allow your doctor to stick his finger up your ass to check you’re prostate gland.

So Nick, you don’t say if your ass is still virgin or not so I am going to assume that it is. Virgin or not there are other guys reading this whose pucker hole has never had as much as a finger up it.

Start with a smaller dildo 5” to 6” in length and slender 1” to 1- ½” across. Starting with a virgin anus is not the time to roll play by saying, “okay big boy bring it on!” Also make sure you have a good durable strap-on harness that the dildo will fit into and lots of good lube. If you select a dildo with an upper curve or a dildo designed for g-spot stimulation your girlfriend will be able to better stimulate your prostate making this a more stimulating experience.

Also for the virgin ass hole it is not a bad idea to get a bit of practice by having your girlfriend finger you or use a small sex toy to massage your prostate and then work up to the strap-on for with a bit of experience you will better learn how to relax the sphincter muscle.

As far as the best position for a man that is the receiver here are 3 anal intercourse positions that couples seem to like.

The guy will lay on his back with his legs pulled up. In this position his giving partner can fuck him as if in a missionary (man on top position). In this position, if you choose to, you can play with yourself as your girlfriend fucks you. The odds are that you are going to experience one hell of an orgasm.

The doggy style is also popular and some claim it to be the best starting position. Doggy style is a bit more submissive and when roll playing submission is popular. In this style the man will be bent over or lean forward doggy style. In this position your girlfriend can also play with your cock and balls. If your girlfriend really wants you to be submissive she might even give that ass of yours a good spanking to start out with.

Another position you might want to try is to stand, bent over at the waist supporting your weight on a chair or table. This method will leave your cock and balls easily accessible to your girlfriend so that she can play with them while fucking that pucker hole.

And ladies, be gentle with your guy. Remember the first time you had a dick stuck into that pussy of yours? I bet it was tight unless you already had experience using a sex toy. Will girls if you haven’t been screwed in the anus yet it is really tight for both a woman and a man. So when inserting a dildo start out with a very gentle push of the tip of the dildo into the anus while holding the shaft. Make sure your partner is relaxed so that the sphincter muscles will open and allow the head of the dildo to disappear. Take your time as you gently press the dildo in.

Once your guys’ anus is relaxed you can start some thrusting. Pull out a bit and slowly push back in and gradually increase the speed of your thrusting. Don’t start out with aggressive thrusting the way your boyfriend probably did the first few times the two of you had sex. While a dildo is certainly not going to experience pre mature ejaculation from rapid thrusting it is going to experience premature ejection if your guy yells stop so just take it easy as you use a steady rhythm that is acceptable to him. You might want to play with his cock while screwing him and most of all watch his moves and listen to him as you enjoy this new experience.

If you are wondering where to get a good strap on you will find them at any good adult sex store or why not help Uncle Terry cover the cost of this website by purchasing it right here from Adam and Eve where you can get great sex toys at a great price.

Thanks, Frustrated Girl

Frustrated Girl, You have given me limited information though I certainly understand your frustration. There are many reasons a woman has difficulty reaching a climax during intercourse especially if she can reach an orgasm during solo masturbation.  One of the most she is worried about how her mate feels about her body or worried about becoming pregnant. Hopefully you are practicing safe sex!

In your situation you make the statement, Even when I play with my clit while we are doing it, …” This makes me wonder if your boyfriend is right in blaming himself. Are the two of you spending a reasonable amount of time in foreplay prior to intercourse? If not this can be a problem and in fact is a very common problem. Unfortunately most guys know that they can get their rocks off at just about any speed. Unfortunately most boys and men do not realize that most women take a lot more time to reach orgasm.

During your next couple of love making sessions see if you can get your boyfriend to bring you to orgasm prior to intercourse. Then when you have intercourse,  if he shoots his load before you climax have him manually bring you to orgasm again instead of rolling over and falling asleep. Keep in mind that intercourse is not the only way to enjoy a great orgasm – mutual masturbation and adult toys brought into a relationship are also great alone and as a precursor to great sexual intercourse.

Uncle Terry

Anonymous.

Anonymous,

It is true that some people drink urine as part of their sexual practice. There are a lot of ways to sexually satisfy your partner without drinking urine, just spend more times reading the information at Ask Uncle Terry and you will find plenty of them.

While urine is often considered sterile you need to be aware that both legal and illegal drugs in the system of the person whose urine you drink could end up in your system.

Hepatitis B can be found in urine even when the person whose urine you drink may not be experiencing symptoms. You may not get infected from drinking the urine but getting it into broken skin in any way including drinking and golden showers can get it into the blood stream.

You also need to be aware of the possibility of genital herpes getting into an open wound even a very small break on your lips and lining of your mouth or throat and transmitting it to you.

If you don’t want Cytomegalovirus (CMV) a common virus that can cause serious illness and blindness you need to be aware that you can potentially get these problems from drinking infected urine.

It is theoretically possible to get HIV from drinking urine even though it is said that HIV is not transmitted through urine. I sure know that I would not want to be that guinea pig.

If these potential dangers are still not enough, gonorrhea and chlamydia could cause infections in the throat.

So anonymous it has to be your decision but why not use those lips, fingers, tongue, possibly some adult toys and a good erect penis to satisfy her. How ever you do it always and I mean always practice safe sex.

Uncle Terry

I have been doing the male Kegels, but I wonder if there is way I can get her to do some Kegel exercises too without sounding dumb or mean?

Second, her vagina has 2 much room in some positions (doggystyle), but I’m not a small guy. Previously I have been with women over 140lbs with tighter vaginas and I just don’t get it.

Finally, (slight case of Peyronie’s maybe???)when erected my penis curves 30 degrees to the left (I think that’s right) and we tried reverse missionary style so I can get to her g-spot, but there is discomfort on my end in that position. Also while she rides in with feet flat and bouncing (due 2 her pelvis driving into my pelvic area causing discomfort. What can we do to accomplish the positions she likes?

Thank you for your time and reading! You are more help than you know!!!

SouthernMan

SouthernMan it was good hearing from you.  By your email I see that you do possess those Gemini traits of adaptable and versatile, communicative and witty, intellectual and eloquent and youthful and lively and knowledgeable in sexual matters. With so many positive traits it makes it difficult for this old Leo to give you much sexual advice but I will try and roar a bit.

First of all I must say congratulations on giving your girlfriend such a great orgasm. There are way to many men that are good at satisfying themselves but the only orgasm they experience is their own or a fake one from their woman for they do not take the time to properly satisfy her. Say man, you can be assured that your girlfriend was not faking since she is obviously a squirter!

As far as getting your girlfriend to do the Kegel, this is something that each of us should do to tighten those PC muscles. You have learned the benefits and your girlfriend just experienced her first orgasm. Let her know that Uncle Terry or “Unc” says that women tell him that they are having wild more intense orgasm since taking up Kegel exercises. After experiencing that first one I am sure your  Gemini gal is going to want to experience some more explossive orgasms! By the way gals, the  Kegel is not only great for women whose vagina has enlarged due to childbirth but also those that want to tighten their PC muscles for the joy of better sex. Kegel will not make the vagina smaller but it makes it tighter and sex more pleasurable for the couple.

For guys that have not located the G-spot as SouthernMan has, this is something you really want to do. One of the best ways for a guy to find that elusive G-spot on his woman is to have her lie down with her knees bent and feet flat on the bed or floor. Make her comfortable by placing a pillow under her buttocks. Gently insert a finger into her vagina directed towards her navel and the G-spot is a little fleshy bump of nerve tissue located about 2 inches in. [plus or minus] When you find it go ahead and stimulate it with your finger until you have her squirming and enjoying an explosive orgasm and I bet she will recipricate giving you one of the best orgasms you have ever had.

If a guys penis curves up, this is ideal for stimulating the G-spot in the missionary position. You mention that yours curves a bit to the left. With a penis that curves north or south it does take a bit of positioning as you have discovered. As far as the best position there is a lot of advice out there from the guy lying on the right side and his girl on the left with the guy placing his left leg between her legs for easier penetration, to experimenting with positioning your body while doing the missionary, to one partner taking a vertical position and the other a horizontal. I know that this is not the answer you are looking for but what could be better than the two of you to just keep on experimenting by trying different positions. On your next romantic weekend have yourself a sex marathon until you find the position that suits the two of you best. Don’t forget to get back with us and in the mean time keep on pleasing that Gemini of yours.

Uncle Terry

Kristi (not my real name)

Kristi, like so many guys your boyfriend really does not realize what he is missing out on my failing to experiment with more than oral sex and intercourse. If he is failing to satisfy you in other ways my guess is that your relationship will end up shorter than his penis. As far as you stimulating his prostrate this is something that turns some men completely off while others really do enjoy it. If you haven’t already done so start by spending a bit more time around his testicle area during oral sex.  Men enjoy masturbation so  start adding a bit of mutual masturbation to your lovemaking sessions. Masturbating him gives you an excuse to lubricate your fingers and you can slowly work your finger towards his anus. Make sure your finger is well lubricated before trying to enter and be very gentle. While doing so you might want to continue to play with his penis and testicles.  As far as locating the prostate (male g spot) it is a walnut size gland about two inches up on the interior side of the body.  Remember to take it slow and gentle and if he ask you to stop do so. Neither a male or a female should ever be forced to have sex when they object. If he does not like having his prostate massaged  don’t feel bad for like I said not all guys do. If he does like it you might consider purchasing a prostate or g-spot stimulator. While at it why not purchase a couple of great toys for yourself.

Uncle Terry

Desperate Searcher

Desperate, I am pleased to hear that you want to warm that oven and satisfy your lady. It is highly unlikely that she was born without a clitoris. You need to understand that the clitoris can be difficult to find. A clitoris can be extremely small or become hidden within folds of skin. While hunting can be fun and satisfying in itself it is highly likely that she knows exactly where it is so why not ask her to guide you to that little knob of love. Once located you can pleasure her in so many ways with that finger, tongue and a variety of toys. By the way, congratulations on your marriage.

Uncle Terry

Our walls aren’t greatly insulated and I can hear the noise. I can’t explain the horrible feeling well enough. I want to know who is thinking about other than me. And why? Keep in mind that I am 23 and he is 24. I love him with all my heart, and have since the day we met!!!!! I cannot confront him about this. I just have to leave the house…and usually act completely angry with him for a while. It’s making me feel really depressed and not good enough. If this is happening now, what do we have to look forward to in our future? Like I said… I’m only 23!!! Help me to understand, please!!
Pam

Sometime I wish I were clairvoyant so I could tell what was going on. A lack of interest in sex with your partner does not mean that they no longer love you. Many things can be going on from personal stress to problems at school or work. Even the concern of pregnancy if a contraception method is not being used. Health issues or even bad timing when you try to initiate sex. The fact that he masturbates regularly suggests that he is still sexual. His masturbation does not say he is no longer interested in you. Guys masturbate from the day they discover that they can make that little guy sing to the day they die. Even guys that have frequent sex with a partner still masturbate and the same holds true for many women and this is normal.

There is not much more enticement than a couple getting naked together and having sex. A couple that shares each other’s body’s needs to be open with one another in discussing their sexual concerns. Discuss your feelings in a calm way; doing it in anger or a threatening way will not get you the response that you are truly looking for. Tell him how much you miss having sex with him. You can mention that you know that he masturbates and maybe suggest masturbating together and each other as either part of foreplay or instead of intercourse. As to wanting to know his fantasies, I sense a possible bit of jealousy. Fantasies are private thoughts that one should not be forced to discuss even with the person they are dearly in love with. Some couples are open and discuss fantasies with each other and this is great. Sometime when the two of you are alone and enjoying each other’s company you might suggest you share a couple of your fantasies. Offer to go first and tell one of yours followed by him telling one of his. Ask if he would like to hear another one of yours and this game can go on for quite a while. If he does not wish to share them that does not mean he is in love with someone other than you. Some of us just hold our fantasies dear and like to maintain them as one of those true secrets we personally possess. If he confesses that he is interested in someone else or things don’t get better in the future perhaps it is time for you to move on while you are still young.

Frank
First of all just because it isn’t pink, does not mean that she has been with someone else. A woman’s vagina usually produces a discharge that is clear or slightly cloudy and odor free. During her menstrual cycle the amount and the consistency of that discharge will vary. Part of the month the discharge may be thin and watery and at other times it may be much thicker and these changes are normal. If the discharge has an odor or is irritating it is usually abnormal. If this is the situation, your girlfriend may have an infection such as vaginitis. Vaginitis can be caused by various organisms such as bacteria, yeast or viruses, as well as by irritations from chemicals in sprays, cream or even clothing, as well as by hormonal changes, allergies and irritations. As with yeast infection a woman may experience recurrences. Vaginitis yeast infection is a form of vaginitis; it is only one of the varieties. The three most common forms of vaginitis are Candidiasis “yeast”, Trichomoniasis “Trich”, and Bacterial Vaginosis “BV”. Different forms of vaginitis have different discharges such as milky, cottage cheese-like or even yellow or green, among others. Not all women will have symptoms while others may experience itching and burning inside the vagina or on the vulva just outside of the vagina. Since vaginitis and other infections can have many causes a medical professional should check your girlfriend. Once identified the correct treatment can be prescribed. Since it can sometimes be passed through sexual contact, this is another good reason to always wear a condom.

First of all let us get it out of the way that frequency of masturbation or virginity is not the cause of your variations in penis dimension. You do not mention if your penis has always been this way, or you have a curvature of the penis or pain, which suggest that in all likelihood you are not suffering from a disease like Peyronie’s. Just like the rest of the body, there are a variety of penis size, shapes and colors. There have been a number of studies on the penis and the general consensus is that the average erect penis of the adult male is between 12.7-15 cm (5.0-5.9 in) in length. Studies of girth studies in circumference range from about 10.2 cm (4.0 in) to 12.3 cm (4.85in). Worldwide studies have shown significant variations with average erect penis length from 9.6 cm (3.7 in) to 16 cm (6.2 in). These studies conducted by physicians of different nationalities suggest that the variation in average size is the result of genetics, and/or cultural factors such as diet or environmental factors such as pollution or exposure to certain chemicals.

Pills are not going to even out the shape of your penis or make it larger. The next time you need to go to a doctor have them take a look at your penis and if you have a condition they will be able to better advise you. In the meantime as long as you are not experiencing any pain you can keep on pumping. When you decide the time is right to have your first intercourse you need not worry about it injuring the girl. If she is also a virgin she may be a bit tight so don’t just ram that big boy in but loosen her vagina up first with your well lubricated fingers. The vagina adjust just fine to different penis sizes and girths, short or long, wide or narrow. Have fun and don’t forget to wear a condom.

First of all even though your penis was inserted only two inches and you did not ejaculate you are correct in being concerned about pre-ejaculation. A small amount of sperm and a nice moist vagina is all that it takes for those little guys to swim upstream and attaché themselves to an egg. Guys, I cannot say it enough: Wear a condom unless you want to end up a father before you are ready. Girls, make sure you have a condom available should a guy not have one unless by the same token you are ready to be a mother. Otherwise, No condom, no sex. In regard to her vagina being to tiny for you, a girl or woman that is a virgin will usually be tight. Some of them are so tight that even a very small penis will not fit in the first couple of times. You did it correctly in spending a lot of time having foreplay but it sounds like there was also a lack of lubrication to help that big boy slip in. Hopefully she did not get pregnant this time, but when there is a next time make sure you put that raincoat on first.